fix me

We all want to be fixed when we are broken down, now don’t we all (i.e. soooo we say anyway). It’s like if our car is broken down, we have to get it fixed to make it run. But do we really want to be fixed as a person? It appears to me that there are a lot of folks that don’t like to be told what to do, how to do it, when to do it, and where to do it; in other words they don’t like to be fixed! It appears that we can be very independent and stubborn and stiff-necked.

Betty Assistance says, use the American payment plan, fix now and pay later! We always want an easy fix like a magic pill that has immediate results. We want to buy an easy fix! When I was a kid, I worked as a teenager for Duke, our neighbor, who was a farmer. He milked cows as part of his operation. One day there was a cow that was down and looked like she was going to die, really looked bad. The vet came and took a huge syringe of medicine and stuck into a vein in her neck and immediately the cow got up and seemed perfect. I was just amazed. The vet said it was milking fever, and we have a miracle drug to fix cows when they have it. 

WildWille says--I caught myself barking up the wrong tree the other day. What was I thinkin'! A guy from Europe, who is on the celebrity cam, says—"Highly materialistic individuals tend to report more anxiety, lower self-esteem, and less life satisfaction.” JoeBlow says--Fix me, I have all those symptoms!  The European guy also says—"Being materialistic isn’t about how much we earn or have or how we’re being perceived by others – it’s about how much we care about such things.” JoeBlow, do you really want to be fixed?  I wonder if you really do, JoeBlow. I think maybe you are just blowing smoke when you say--Fix me! Betty Assistance says--Sometimes we just have to grabbing at straws!

“You just can’t understand!” That is what our son told me that is one of the things I told him when he was a kid. I wonder if we do understand things differently when we mature. Do things look different when we mature. ItchieBitchie says—And age doesn’t necessarily make us more mature; I know folks who are old but not mature! Ouchy ouchy! I think I understand some stuff differently as I mature, I think, but I really don’t know for sure. We experienced recently a friend who we haven’t seen for some time and we both agreed that they have matured (i.e. and they’re not a spring chicken anymore either)! We think they are a much better person because of that (i.e. it appears they are finally becoming humble)! Bingo! Betty Assistance says--Sometimes we just have to wait it out!

Fix me please!  Well, Charle Brown, it ain’t what we say but how we live our lives (i.e. ultimately, actions reveal our real us). Your actions will fix you Charlie Brown. I recently was reminded that an acquaintance is not what they say; they talk a lot but don’t act the same as they talk. Ouchy ouchy! Actually, someone called them on it, and they didn’t like it. Their feelings got hurt! They didn’t realize that others saw through them. Like Abraham Lincoln said—You can fool some of people all the time and all the people some of the time but you can’t fool all the people all the time. MissPerfect says—Character has a lot to do if folks are believed; character puts credence into what we say! Ding ding ding!

A good doctor is a very good diagnostician. They have the careful eye of seeing the problem (i.e. the ability to see things). They gotta see things before they can fix us. If we don’t go to the doctor, we can’t be fixed. And it’s just amazing what the medical profession can fix now a days. It’s amazing! Many of you have been cut up, put together, have many replacement parts, take special medications; basically, many of you should of been dead years ago. Do we ever say thank you! Are these miracles or not or do we just think we deserve them?

It’s fixed! When our family was here in Yakima, we were cleaning up after a meal and Jeannie told the family that they had to wash the large dinner plates by hand as they are too large for the dishwasher. James told her that the upper rack is adjustable and can be moved up to make room for them. Two clicks and it was done! She said you mean I have been washing them by hand for the last 7 years and all it took was an easy adjustment to fix it! Betty Assistance says--Sometimes we need to let others help us!

We were walking in the park recently and we met another walker who Jeanne taught with maybe 30 years ago, but they have not seen each other all those years. Jeanne said, I hardly recognized you, you have lost a lot of weight. She told us her story that her husband became blind she thinks from a COVID shot and then he had a stomach ack and went to the hospital and died in a couple of hours. During this same time, she was diagnosed with a type of cancer and was to die in two months. Her pastors came to her house and prayed for her; she said I really didn’t believe it would do any good but at my next doctor’s appointment, the cancer was gone and that was 7 years ago. It was fixed. Betty Assistance says--Some times we have to take a shot in the dark!

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.

wrong turn

Earlier this year at the Faun-Ardèche Classic bicycle race in France, the leading group of riders went in the wrong direction near the end. Cyclists were sprinting toward victory when they took the wrong turn at a roundabout, allowing Romain Grégoire of France to claim the victory.

A friend and his wife went to visit their daughter who was going to school in Kansas City, Missouri. He got up and went for a run one morning (i.e. he’s a long-distance runner). He ran and ran and crossed a couple bridges and made many turns and decided to turn around and go back. He was lost! He didn’t have his cell phone, no identification, no money, no phone numbers and no address of their daughter’s place. He had to stop a police officer. After they determined he wasn’t a fruitcake and after they quit laughing, they got him back to their daughter’s place. He even ran into a different state. He was in Kansas City, Kansas.

Another friend is a competitive 5K and 10K runner. He was was running in a race and his wife was worried as he usually was one of the winners in his age division, but he didn’t show up at the finish line. Finally, she asked the race organizers if they could help find him. He took a wrong turn and was across town still running!

I told our 17-year old grand daughter that her decisions are just as what I told her when she was a freshmen in high school, her cumulative grade point starts now; you gotta start out thinking that way and not mess around at the beginning. Well, don’t make wrong turns now as they will probably affect you the rest of your life. You don’t get re-dos; they are part of your cumulative life. Most teenagers can’t understand that but when you are 50 years old, 65 years old or 80 years old a person we seem to understand that better.

Here is my customer service voice—Encouragement cost nuttin but can change everything! Our encouragement might keep someone from making the wrong turn. Let you and I try to encourage someone today.

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--The sad thing about being a good sport, is you have to lose to prove it.

excited

It is said—Words express our thoughts! 

Excitement can be caused by us being anxious or by us being enthusiastic. Probably in either case it causes our heart to beat faster. Excitement probably can be caused by something joyful or by something uncertain. Probably in both feelings, excitement makes us feel alive. It gets our attention alright!

Fear causes excitement in our mind I think. Sooo what are we fearful of in our lives. I asked a few of you and it sure appears that many are fearful of failure and not being in control (i.e. very open and honest response). Now that’s something to be fearful about I guess. I have failures all the time and I’m surely not in control of very much; It sounds like I have a lot to be fearful about! But I’m not really very fearful; I’m really not ok, maybe sometimes I am! The old saying is-- “Public speaking was just found to be the number one ranked fear for adults. Number two…was death. DEATH came in at NUMBER TWO. That means if you’re at a funeral most people would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy!!”

I have been told many times by many folks who I have met here in Yakima who know Jeanne that I have hit the jackpot meeting Jeanne. I agree, I have! At our age to meet and share life together is complete excitement for us. We are very grateful for this opportunity. We are very aware of it, and we don’t take it lightly. It doesn’t take away anything of our past but just gives us a new renewed life a.k.a. a new opportunity, excitement!

CoachB says that life is much better and enjoyable when we concentrate on the smooth parts of life and not the rough parts of life. And we all have/had/will have smooth parts and rough parts! Now that doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out. In fact, a friend tells me that every situation might be 90 percent positive and 10 percent negative soooo we can decide what we are going to spend our time thinking about. I guess he is saying that nuttin in this world is 100 percent perfect. Saturday question—Does anyone enjoy being around someone who is always complaining and bitching about something? Do those folks really enjoy their life?

Another friend thinks that many folks have this type of fear and he is probably right (i.e. very honest and open)—"I’m going to come at the fear question from a small, everyday perspective. On a daily basis, the fear of not looking good or feeling smart enough or not having something you have (jealousy) motivates more people during the day than many other things. We all want to fit in.” Now that can get many folks excited for sure! Another friend put it this way--"I think people are primarily motivated by the fear of failure and/or embarrassment due to failure. Our society favors the successful and the fear of appearing anything other than drives people, even go so far as to live outside of their means to uphold an image."

I talked to a 21-year old young man in church recently who is doing an intern as a mechanical engineer.  I asked him how it was going—good, I like it but I find myself not as excited in doing physical activity on weekends that I normally was—how come—I’m tired or I think I’m lazy; I would rather just sit on the couch—well, that’s not good—I know, I am an adventurous person soooo it’s not my nature—soooo how are you changing your attitude—I have scheduled physical activities for my weekends that force me to get after it—wait until you get my age; then you really have to force yourself to throw those chips away and get your butt off the couch! We had a good laugh!

The preacher said something recently that really caught my attention—He said that all of us will encounter God sometime in our life and we have a choice to embrace Him with excitement or completely turn Him away and become hardened. I talked to an old friend who I grew up with from the Roseland area recently. He told me that he just can’t understand why folks don’t believe in God; I just don’t get it; I just don’t understand it.

Miguel, a speedy delivery driver for Prime delivered a package as I was outside the other day. I said—thanksamillion for the delivery—you’re welcome—you excited about your job—oh yes, I am; I get paid $21 an hour and have 4-10 hour days—are you saving any money—oh ya, I’m living with my mom and am saving soooo I can buy a trailer of my own—you seem to be a good person—I try—well keep it up; I wish you the best—you too; thank you sir!

I have many friends who are really happy; they seem to always be happy. Sorry to say, I know folks who always seem to be unhappy (i.e. pretty bitter it seems). One of my friends told me flat out, I am happy; I have been happy for decades! And I think he is and has been! He’s always excited about life. Sooooo why the difference do you think?

A friend said another fear folks have is the fear that folks will find out they are a fraud!  Ouchy ouchy! My friend said many folks will go to great lengths to cover up being a fraud. I guess that could really get some folks excited!  A friend of Jeanne who I have had the opportunity to visit with a couple of times really appears to be the real deal. Jeanne describes her as someone who lives her principals. Paul, not everyone can be a Paul, said--“Watch, stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong.” And then he summarized that summary by saying, “Let all that you do be done with love.” CoachB says—Learning does not happen until there is a change! Paul also said--"Nothing in the spiritual life has value unless it is accompanied by selfless, others-centered, God like love.” That gets me excited, yes it does.

I have to admit that I was excited and still am. Our children, their spouses, and our grandkids are vacationing in the Great Northwest and were with us for a couple of days. Wow! We really enjoyed them. Great excitement! There is a great line in the Walt Whitman poem “O Me! O Life!”: “The question, O me! so sad, recurring—What good amid these, O me, O life?  /Answer.  /That you are here—that life exists and identity, / That the powerful play goes on, and you may contribute a verse.”

 Moses answered them with this strong prediction of God’s rescuing them from their enemies. His answer was simple: “Stand firm and you will see...The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Now that is exciting too! My opinion.

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--People who do things that count never stop to count them.

what did I learn

You might compare me to some ol’ shoe,---good for nuttin…and soooo rotten that nuttin can be done with me!  Take that into consideration but give me a change and please read on! And then decide!

When I was a 5-year old living with our family a mile and a quarter south of Roseland, MN on our modest farm, I was content. I really didn’t know any different. Then I learned as I got older to be discontented; I wanted more stuff and the world taught me to compare and be envious and greedy a.k.a. human nature. I have learned that those worldly desires are what makes capitalism really thrive. I also learned that I really like to learn; I enjoy learning. Learning is really enjoyable to me. Now, I think as I age, I am becoming more content; more like being that 5-year old again (i.e. most of the time but not all the time—hahaha). I think I learned this through practice, instruction, and experience. But reality is, I have my moments when I’m dissatisfied, impatient, and discontented. Now that is a paradox!

Kareen Abdul-Jabbar says—"Older people are happier…no one wants their young mind again, filled with…anxiety, bias and selfishness.”

Well ya, I have learned to be careful about what others say, don’t trust them always; if they seem a little shaky or make me nervous, I need to be even more careful. I learned not to get in over my head. I learned If it’s too good to be true, it’s probably not true. I have learned to error on the cautious side. I learned to try to make good decisions. Maybe test it first or observe first (i.e. look into it). Find different sources of information. Don’t believe everything that everyone says, everyone has an agenda which many times is not for my benefit but only theirs.

In purchasing businesses, the buying company will do “due diligence” on the company they are buying. They go through many processes to make sure all the information is correct (i.e. spend big bucks to do that). They don’t want to buy a lemon! We were at a dinner party recently when the folks talked about running credit checks, background checks and just googled a lady that their brother was dating (i.e. they didn’t want him to get in a mess as they thought he was vulnerable). Hey, don’t shoot the messenger!

Stubbornness. Are we unwilling to change the way we do things? Did you know it is said that the greatest enemy of tomorrow’s success is yesterday’s success? Folks just don’t want to change! I was talking to a young man recently and he told me—“That some extremely talented folks become lazy and don’t work and many times are overtaken by less talented people who are over achievers.” I have learned that there are folks who are very talented in a certain area but in other areas of their life they fail (i.e. they need someone to take care of them hahaha). I have learned I can change my mind and I do it a lot (e.g. I’m going for a hike, well I changed my mind, I’m going to take a nap instead)! I have learned it’s a good characteristic to be able to change our minds. Oh, OneSmartPerson says--There is no limit what a talented person who really works hard can accomplish!

Well ya, I have learned that I like the odds in my favor! 

Well ya, I have learned by listening to folks that what they believe results in how they live and that is many times based on an emotion or emotions and not facts. They seem to have had something happen in their life that makes them think like the way they do (i.e. it could be something good or something bad or it’s a long process of being taught something that has really affected them). An example that could be: I think I see some folks who have a strong opposition to welfare and others who have a strong support of welfare a.k.a. government support. That might depend a lot on who is getting the welfare or the support check. I have learned that it all depends on how it affects ME!

Abraham Lincoln said—Better to give your path to a dog, than be bitten by him in contesting for the right. Even killing the dog wound not cure the bite!

I have read this that has been written by Donald, soooo it must be right: “In today’s fast-paced world, we must be ready to deal with complex situations that require a variety of different approaches. In some cases, it might be necessary to make quick decisions and take risks so as not to miss important opportunities. In other cases, a patient and conservative approach might be necessary to thoroughly research the venture. In many ways, mastering decisions is no more than having good common sense.” That is Donald’s opinion. What is your opinion? That is what I thought!

What did I learn! When I was maybe 12, I had a muskrat cornered in the corner of the silo room and the barn. He had no place to go; I had him dead to the world. I had a stick and was jabbing him and Blacky my dog was at my side barking at him. All I had to say was, get him Blacky and he was dead. It was hopeless for the rat. Just then my Daddy, Chester, came out of the barn and saw the situation and told me that it takes a big person to give that rat or a person an exit and let them live once again and then he left. I thought for a while and grabbed Blacky and let that rat get out of the corner and he ran around the silo to live another day. Blacky surely didn’t understand me!

Well ya, I have learned that no one likes to be told what to do.  No one likes to be enslaved to another (i.e. under their thumb). When I started my first job as a business teacher in high school, we had a superintendent who liked to be in control a.k.a. his ideas. He would talk to me about new business equipment. I would always down pay it and say we are getting along but we need to try to keep up with new equipment if we can afford it; then changed the subject. Then about a couple of weeks later, he would approach me and say—I have been thinking and have this idea that we need to get some new business equipment. What do you think?  I told him I thought he had a great idea. Some teachers hounded him, but they never got any new stuff. I learned that if we don’t care who gets the credit, we can get a lot more done.

What did I learn? Well ya, I have learned in my life to live a quality life it is good to always have gratitude; always be thankful and appreciative. No matter what, have an expression of gratitude. It just changes my life and seems like everything else falls into place. Pretty simple but it works for me. What’s important is important. Saturday question—Who do we give thanks to?

I recently read this little story:  Two men were talking, and one said, “I don’t mean to brag about my financial skills, but the bank calls every week to tell me my debt is outstanding.” The other said, “Well, I don’t want to brag either, but my psychologist says I have the biggest ego he’s ever seen.”  Who likes to be around braggers; they are a pain in the butt (i.e. my opinion). Who likes to be around humble folks; everyone! My Daddy, Chester, told me—erv, if you are good, you don’t have to tell anyone, everyone will know! BigHeadBill, are you really better than everyone else or do you just think sooo! Da!

What did I learn!  Well ya, I learned that when I got rid of all my stuff in our house in IA to move to WA, I learned that my stuff was worth a lot less than what I thought it was worth. Used stuff of mine I thought was soooo valuable, others didn’t even want! Da! Saturday question—Sooo what is valuable in my life anyway? I learned what is! Ouchy ouchy!

Soooo what was your critical evaluation of this “It’s Saturday?” Your evaluation reminds me of a story Abraham Lincoln told to his Cabinet after he read the first draft of the Emaciation Proclamation and let his Cabinet critique it: “Gentlemen, this reminds me of the story of the man who had been away from home, and when he was coming back was met by one of his farm hands, who greeted him after this fashion: ‘Master, the little pigs are dead, and the old sow’s dead, too, but I didn’t like to tell you all at once.’”

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said—Always keep learning. It keeps you young.

task analysis

I try to recognize and celebrate small things! It seems like that works good for me!  Yes, it does!

I am thinking of you (i.e. maybe all of you but particularly some of you) and of course, me. Yes, I am! Soooo listen up, hahaha! My thought process started by thinking of an acquaintance who died it appears because of complete depression. Why, I asked myself. I don’t know and never will. He just couldn’t turn it around, I guess. Then I thought about task analysis in our lives as a way of pulling ourselves up from a tough time or through tough events. Soooo how do we do that I asked myself.  Abraham Lincoln said—When we extinguish hope we create desperation.

Task analysis is the process of breaking down a complex activity or goal into smaller, manageable steps or components. By identifying and understanding each step required to complete a task, people can more effectively plan, monitor progress, and address challenges one piece at a time. This approach helps transform overwhelming situations into achievable actions, fostering clarity and momentum even during difficult times. Abraham Lincoln said—Wage war one at a time.

I use this concept in my life a lot. I do one part of the big project and then take a break (i.e. I have a sense of accomplishment). Then I do another and another until I get the project done. That way I don’t get soooo overwhelmed. It seems to really work for me. It sure does! That sorta kinda rings my bell!

Dr.J says—"Let’s look at our “life line” and look back as how it works--God often lays out his plan just one step at a time. He wants us to take the first step in obedience, and then he’ll show us the next step. Each step along the way may not seem logical, but we can obey in faith and confidence, knowing God’s way is always best.” BUT for many folks, that is really hard to do or comprehend. We have a hard time handling what we think is, two steps forward and one step back. Or does it feel like two steps backwards and one step forward sometimes. Either way, if we keep at it, we will gradually go forward and higher (i.e. an accumulation of small steps). You can say that again!

You have missed the point one person says to another! When I just think of the short term, I miss the point! The long-term point is much more important. And that’s seeing the big picture. Short-term tasks accumulate and build on the long-term project a.k.a. the real point. I have to admit that I sometimes concentrate way toooo much on the short term and miss the point. Kenny Rogers sang--There is a certain point when it’s good to know when to hold ‘em and when to fold ‘em! You can put your money on that!

A form of discipline I see is “the time out method” in disciplining children. I, in analyzing my life’s tasks, take time outs to meditate on my direction and methods. I have a handbook that I try to follow; it seems to work a lot better for me when I follow it, but it ain’t always easy let me tell ya! AverageJoe says--If it would be easy, everyone would do it! Sometimes events in my life that happen to me force me to take a time out; I have no choice. I can use them as opportunities or be unhappy about them (i.e. it’s my choice). Those opportunities do make me think through the process and hopefully get me focused on the right stuff! Those opportunities seem to happen all the time! Yikes! But that seems to work!

It sure is hard to have clarity of thought and get our strength renewed when our soul is weary. Some friends who are in AA and have had success tell me that the first step is that folks have to admit they have a problem and the second one is accept that there is a higher power and they can't handle it by themselves. RickyRick says—"The Bible has a name for 'admitting your way isn’t working.' It’s called confession, and it can be tough. Those two are big parts of healing.” These concepts are from folks who have been very low in their lives. They ought to know I would guess. One day at a time! You can count your chickens from those eggs before they’re hatched, oh ya!

Soooo how can we become strong? Well, to get strong either physically or mentally or spiritually we have to exercise. No question.  And do it regularly; set it as a priority. Make it a part of our life. Easy? no way! Can it be done, you bet it can. It really helps, my opinion, to be around good folks. A support group of some kind is a good. A church small group is an excellent example of a group of folks who we can trust and share. Not the folk who are not interested in helping us, probably not! We might have to make new friends or hang around with different folks. Could be! That could put the fire out!

I find that small accomplishments are soooo good for me. That is why I like task analysis. It makes me feel good. They lift me up (e.g. exercising every day or not eating after my evening meal). I’m big on writing these small goals down and also checking them off as I accomplish them. It works better for me. That seems to tickle my inners.

How do we handle terrible impulses? I think we really need to be tough folks in a tough world. We really need to work on it HARD! Will it be easy, no way! Be realistic. BUT accomplish one small goal at a time. That will turn the wind around!

We all have heard about all of this before, no question. Sooooo let’s do it and see if we can get the ball rolling. Soo throw those chips down and get our butts of the couch! Nuttin will happen if we don’t get after it. We all know that! Let’s knock the door down!

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--A goal is a dream with a deadline.

processing information and thoughts

I am thinking of a friend who isn’t happy. I have said many times, and it is very obvious to me, that woman are much prettier when they are happy. To me that is a no brainer. It’s like day and night difference. They can put on makeup or buy a new outfit, but it still shows. It’s not rocket science. For a man it is the same, men have a hard face when they are not happy. My opinion, if folks are unhappy for a very long time, they will start to look old. I read in the Book about a cure for this, yes, I have. It is:  Wisdom (i.e. that is heavenly wisdom and not earthly wisdom) brightens a person’s face and changes its hard appearance. Take some time to process and reflect on that will ya.

When we analyze and process the correct information, we understand our situation much better than when we don’t. My opinion. I guess we have to get the correct information first to process it. Now that is a big project for all of us. It seems like many times we don’t want to know the correct information. JoeBlow says—It’s a lot easier to see other’s problems and weaknesses than our own! Maybe we can’t correct ourselves until we do that and then we still might not be able to correct it. Some folks have told me how professional counseling has really helped them. Maybe the problems we have are in our heads and maybe we need help from others to process the situation!

I was hitting golf balls at the course the other day. I said to a couple of old guys who were playing—how’s it going today—ok, but we are a couple of old hackers, but it beats sitting on the couch watching TV!!!

I don’t want to be a pretender. Pretenders are hard for me to be around. They are what a friend calls them, a black cloud. Violet Stillwater says--erv, be careful here; process this thought first. Maybe it’s better that you do not talk about it. Ok, I’m just venting here. I know, I know! I express my thoughts and frustrations on paper many times and then after a day or two, I throw the paper away. It seems therapeutic for me! 

We observed that part of our lawn (i.e. an area of about 12 inches) where the sprinkles don’t sprinkle the grass, that the grass is brown. Yakima only gets 8 inches of rain a year. If the lawn doesn’t get water, it just won’t grow and be green (i.e. that is fact). We adjusted the sprinklers soooo it got watered and wow did that make a difference. Bingo! Now that is a good analogy for my mind and soul, I think!

MissPerfect says--I read that one thing about AI is that it can reprogramed to not make the same mistake again; I wish I could program myself to not make the same mistake over and over and over again! If anyone is in an unhappy relationship and wants it to change, ask or observe folks who have long, happy relationships. Don’t ask folks who always have problems in relationships. The same way about personal money management. But if a person doesn’t want to take critical criticism, and change, it will be the same-o same-o. It is a proven fact. We gotta process the facts! Maybe there are reasons why folks don’t want to change (i.e. keep hitting their heads against the wall)! ItchieBitchie says--If we do the same old unsuccessful things that we did the last 10 years the next 10 years, why in the world should we expect anything to change! SusieQ says--I'm getting help; I’m on the phone with the fire department—what did they say—I don’t know; I’m waiting for them to stop laughing!

The old saying is:  There is two ways of learning it, the easy way and the hard way (e.g. we are told we need to exercise, and we do it and the hard way is we have a health condition, and we learn it). We process information differently now don’t we. Or maybe we process it the same way but react to it differently (i.e. take a different course of action). My Daddy, Chester, would say to me, erv, “Everyone has problems, it’s just that some handle them differently.”

Ok, how do we learn to make good decisions? It appears that some folks make better decisions than others. People’s decision processes must be different. If soooo, how does a person develop a good decision making process. Yes, we can research and use the basic guiding principles for effective decision making but even then, people process them differently and it seems we always don’t follow them the same. Soooo it appears to me, we really do need to sit down and really analyze our own multisided decision-making process. Sooooo I think we all need help. It appears that if we seek help and take it, we can make better decisions. Soooo then, we need to decide where we are going to get our help! OneSmatPerson says—And there is the problem, many folks won’t seek help!

Reflect and debrief and process past events and then go forward seems to be a good thing, my opinion RickyRick says—"A lot of people don’t want to forgive, because they think if they forgive people, then they’ve got to trust them again. No. That’s a whole different issue! Trust has to be earned. In a relationship where a person is dealing with a major problem that has harmed their family, they may ask, ‘Will you forgive me?’ Yes, we will forgive them. ‘Can we go back to the way it was?’ No. That’s not at all what we do. You move forward, but things must be different. Forgiveness and the restoration of a relationship are not the same thing.” BUT forgiveness feels good! At least to me it does. BUT remember, I’m just a little ol' farm boy from a mile and a quarter south of Roseland, MN!

Process our mind! CoachB says—” We got to have a new mindset to go forward. Quit trying to change the stuff out there but instead change the stuff in our heads, hearts and souls.” I agree with CoachB. I, along with the encouragement of Jeanne, am in the process of changing my mindset of a certain person. They are not going to change but maybe I can change and treat them differently. What do you think? That is what I thought! BUT I tell you what folks, it ain’t easy! I have a thick head and a hard heart at times! Oh, yes!

But here is the bottom line, the real fact (i.e. the conclusion of the matter)! Have you ever tried to help someone who doesn’t want your help or want to change? Someone who really doesn’t want to change or don't see the need to change. How did it go? It is as simple as that! As I read in a novel I'm reading--But my guess is it ain't going to happen! Abraham Lincoln said--Remember, human action can be modified to some extent, but human nature can not be changed.

Some folks just plain jump to a conclusion and overreact without processing the information or the source. Many folks would say that some folks use no common sense (i.e. they are very radical in their reactions). C’mon, it sure appears it’s easy to get some folks excited real fast; pull their chain and they go ballistic (i.e. easy sale no matter what they are being sold). Did I get you excited when you read this “It’s Saturday?” Kaboom! Did I get your dandruff up?

Have a FUN day my friends unless you have other plans. (-:

erv

MyDeceasedFriendJean said--There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.